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Post by Deleted on Sept 11, 2018 23:54:15 GMT -5
Most of the people who read the Daily Chronicle know my wife has had a few things go wrong lately. She had a condition called TMD, which drove her crazy, and I feel a few weeks ago she had a heat stroke or just short of one. Physically she is fine. Mentally, she loses her memory. People that have Alzheimer's that I am aware of do not realize they are losing their memory, as in dad's case. Xuan just forgets where the salt is one day and little things. I am going to be spending my hours more with her than ever, as she seems to draw memory from me and we get through the day. I'm 61 and she is 72, so I guess she was due for something before me. What this means for me and this wonderful club: First, I am so grateful for it and every one of those who run it. My posts may dwindle off here and there. I may wind up posting more if it helps relieve some strain. My humor may be up and down. Usually, I am in control somewhat. With Xuan being ill, all bets are off. I certainly will smoke whenever possible and when I have the time I will write about things, if interesting. I've already announced changes to my patterns on Facebook and Twitter, neither of which comes close to the Briar Patch. What I hope I can get from you all is some grace if I say something wrong. My moods are many. If I do, please challenge me and give me a chance to explain or beg forgiveness. I get the email alarm when I get a message, so you all are free to use that if need be or to say hello. Again, who knows, I may post a dozen on the morrow, but right now all of my thoughts are with her, even though she is sawing logs. If anyone has ever noticed, I try to have good punctuation until the last sentence. I usually do not put a period there. I never like a thought to end, as I never want this to end Thanks to you all and I am sure I will see you sooner rather than later David
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Post by trailboss on Sept 12, 2018 0:06:46 GMT -5
I totally get it David, and I don't think that I am far off the mark to say that we all do. I will pray for divine guidance in the days ahead as you minister to your beloved wife. Hang in there, Hoss.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 0:11:10 GMT -5
David, very sorry to hear that your wife has not been herself. She will be in my thoughts and Prayers. Tomorrow I will say a special Prayer and light a 24 hour candle with hope better days are ahead for your wife. There are tests that can determine “ if “ your wife has the beginning stages of Alzheimer’s. Also new medications and time release patches that helps, did wonders for a friend of mine, thank God. Please keep us informed. Wishing both you and your wife all the best. Hope too also see you back on here whenever possible. Be well, Ted
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Post by Dramatwist on Sept 12, 2018 0:25:24 GMT -5
We all understand. You and Xuan in my prayers.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 0:49:16 GMT -5
If anyone has ever noticed, I try to have good punctuation until the last sentence. I usually do not put a period there. I never like a thought to end, as I never want this to end Thanks to you all and I am sure I will see you sooner rather than later David … No periods? You must of gave your English teacher fits David Attention to family first David. We'll always be here to bust your chops later! Positive thoughts coming from the West coast for Xuan and you brother
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 1:03:22 GMT -5
You and Xuan in my prayers, David. Remember to take care of yourself too.
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Post by antb on Sept 12, 2018 2:00:13 GMT -5
Of course good man! One day I'll get that PM off to you Blessings to the three of you, as always.
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Post by scrooge on Sept 12, 2018 4:41:07 GMT -5
Love an thoughts an prayers to you an yours my brother.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 5:01:55 GMT -5
I hope everything works out. Best of luck David.
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Post by Legend Lover on Sept 12, 2018 5:13:37 GMT -5
David, you're a special part of the patch. The Chronicle is a rather unique part of this place and that's thanks to you.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Xuan and the rest of the family. She is your priority, and while we'll miss your activity and bonkers sense of humour, you need to be elsewhere. However, pop in when you can, if she's napping or if you've a loose end and say hi.
If you're moody and snap of course it may get pointed out, but hopefully everyone will do it with grace, remembering what you're going through. We all have bum days when our moods aren't great, and what with what you're going through that might be more intense than others.
I, too, will leave out the full stop at the end of the next sentence. We don't call them periods in the UK...although the thought of missing a period makes me shiver.
Take care of yourself, brother
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Post by papipeguy on Sept 12, 2018 8:41:18 GMT -5
Some of us know what it's like yo be a care giver for a spouse. It can be exhausting both physically and mentally. I will be thinking about the two of you often having been there. Take care, embrace the moments and visit when you can.
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Post by just ol ed on Sept 12, 2018 8:54:02 GMT -5
adding my good thoughts during her travels. My Mrs also "older" than me by....6mos! Nan has "started down the road" herself within last year or so. Now classified as "early onset brain atrophy" but sure to progress as time goes by. Sure all who read your story can also send good thoughts.
always enjoyed that old Mickey Gilley tune "Older wimmen make better lovers".
Ed Duncan, Batavia, NY pipe/cigar since '62
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Post by Legend Lover on Sept 12, 2018 10:04:13 GMT -5
adding my good thoughts during her travels. My Mrs also "older" than me by....6mos! Nan has "started down the road" herself within last year or so. Now classified as "early onset brain atrophy" but sure to progress as time goes by. Sure all who read your story can also send good thoughts. always enjoyed that old Mickey Gilley tune "Older wimmen make better lovers". Ed Duncan, Batavia, NY pipe/cigar since '62 Sorry to hear about your circumstances too.
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Post by kxg on Sept 12, 2018 10:15:27 GMT -5
May you both find peace throughout the journey.
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Post by puffy on Sept 12, 2018 10:45:46 GMT -5
My prayers are with you.May you find the strength and grace to get through this..Wishing the best for you.
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Post by roadsdiverged on Sept 12, 2018 10:49:15 GMT -5
I hope the best for both of you. I know it must be a very tough time. Be strong and take care of her, along with yourself.
Thoughts and prayers for both of you
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Post by JimInks on Sept 12, 2018 12:13:49 GMT -5
My best wishes to you both.
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Post by slowroll on Sept 12, 2018 12:30:23 GMT -5
Just be yourself and carry on. Good wishes for easier times.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 12:37:23 GMT -5
So sorry to read this, David. Remember you have a lot of friends here. Best wishes to you and Xuan.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2018 13:03:12 GMT -5
adding my good thoughts during her travels. My Mrs also "older" than me by....6mos! Nan has "started down the road" herself within last year or so. Now classified as "early onset brain atrophy" but sure to progress as time goes by. Sure all who read your story can also send good thoughts. always enjoyed that old Mickey Gilley tune "Older wimmen make better lovers". Ed Duncan, Batavia, NY pipe/cigar since '62 Ed, wishing your wife well and hope the Meds she’s taking helps. Also time release medication patches helped my friend immensely. All the best to you both.
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Post by toshtego on Sept 12, 2018 15:59:08 GMT -5
Wishing you and Xuan all the best.
You have many friends here who feel the same way. Sink me if this isn't so!
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Post by Cramptholomew on Sept 12, 2018 17:17:46 GMT -5
Hi David, You have my well wishes and prayers. Take care of your wife. I sincerely hope things improve for you both.
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Post by Matthew on Sept 12, 2018 18:47:20 GMT -5
Wendy and I will remember you and Xuan in prayer as well David.Don't ever feel that you need to apologize for venting,that's what friends are for. We will be here for you,whether to yell at us or to smoke up a room.
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Post by Pistol Pete 1911 on Sept 12, 2018 18:56:28 GMT -5
Positive thoughts headed your way. As far as Alzheimers goes, Alzheimers patients forget where the salt is not what it's for and we all forget things from time to time and at 72 well, it's just natural to forget things. Take your time do your thing and we will all be here for you when you need us
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Post by peterd-Buffalo Spirit on Sept 12, 2018 19:46:17 GMT -5
… Prayers and Best Wishes for you and Xuan...May the Creator strengthen you both through these trying times...
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Post by LSUTigersFan on Sept 12, 2018 19:51:41 GMT -5
David, I'm new here, but I have enjoyed your posts. My girlfriend's mother suffered a mild stroke, and the effect is very similar to Alzheimers. So, I know, somewhat, what you are going through. All I can do is offer my prayers and learn to avoid a period at the end of my sentences. Your justification strikes a cord here
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Post by Wolfman on Sept 12, 2018 22:26:00 GMT -5
David - You are both in my prayers.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 14, 2018 15:40:04 GMT -5
To all: Thanks for your prayers and thoughts. Our routine here is getting a little more organized. I may never have the time I once had, but I am wrapping my head around Xuan's needs and she is responding.
To those who mentioned their comparative needs to identify with me, you are all in my prayers, too. And have been since I've joined this club.
A few days ago I felt like I was in the Excalibur movie in search of the Holy Grail. Now it is more like just making some moderate adjustments.
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Post by pepesdad1 on Sept 14, 2018 16:15:50 GMT -5
David, very sorry to hear that your wife has not been herself. She will be in my thoughts and Prayers. Tomorrow I will say a special Prayer and light a 24 hour candle with hope better days are ahead for your wife. There are tests that can determine “ if “ your wife has the beginning stages of Alzheimer’s. Also new medications and time release patches that helps, did wonders for a friend of mine, thank God. Please keep us informed. Wishing both you and your wife all the best. Hope too also see you back on here whenever possible. Be well, Ted What ted said...we are here for you...please lean on use for your support...we are here for you 24/7. Remember that!
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Post by flybypipe on Sept 14, 2018 16:32:43 GMT -5
I’m glad things are looking a bit brighter for you. I was step-father to a handicapped daughter from the time she was eight until she passed at nineteen. It was a slow, steady decline, and about every 8-10 months there was a major change or crisis. Every time it happened, her mother and I would wonder how in the world are we going to be able to handle this. After about a week or two it would just be normal routine.
I know it’s not the same as with a spouse, mainly because it sounds like you are the only care giver, but you will be surprised a what you can handle. Your wife is fortunate you are there.
Good thoughts coming your way
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