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Post by CrustyCat on Jul 17, 2021 3:36:17 GMT -5
Not sure if or when I may have mentioned this, but my wife was diagnosed a couple of years ago with stage 3 melanoma. Let me tell you something, if you have a weird spot on your body, get it checked out. Melanoma is something you don't want to mess with. It has a very high metastatic rate. After surgery to remove it, the first round was immunotherapy. When they checked her again earlier this year, it had metastasized to her lung, at that point it becomes stage 4. Another round of immunotherapy, had a bad reaction and had to stop. Tried some different pills recently, more reactions and stopped. Recent PET scan she just found out today is horrible. 100+ spots on her lungs, spots on her heart, liver, spline, leg muscles. It's everywhere. The doctor mentioned chemo to her, but I don't think she wants to do that, there is no cure and she doesn't want to spend what time she has left feeling sick. He also mentioned hospice, which I think is going to be the next course of action. It's hard to think about, I'm 55 years old and I don't want to be a widower and there is nothing I can do about it. Keep us in your prayers.
Kevin
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Post by darktater on Jul 17, 2021 5:14:51 GMT -5
I'm really sorry to hear about your bad news. My thoughts will be with you both. Pete
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Post by Plainsman on Jul 17, 2021 7:04:36 GMT -5
Kevin, I am so sorry to hear this. I can’t imagine how hard this is for you. Prayers going up, brother,, and will continue as long as you need them.
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Post by terrapinflyer on Jul 17, 2021 7:14:52 GMT -5
My heart goes out to you. I'm sure it's devastating to you both. My dad had malignant melanoma, with mets to lungs, brain, all over. It's a terrible one. You'll be in my thoughts.
To repeat Kevin's advice, have anything unusual on your skin checked out pronto, folks.
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Post by just ol ed on Jul 17, 2021 7:56:48 GMT -5
terrible news. It hit my Dad yrs ago & lost him at age 74. Adding good thoughts for you & family
Ed Duncan, Batavia, NY
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Post by pepesdad1 on Jul 17, 2021 8:28:14 GMT -5
So sorry to hear this prayers for you and your family.
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Post by toshtego on Jul 17, 2021 8:37:45 GMT -5
Kevin, I am very sorry to read of your wife's cancer.
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Post by Ronv69 on Jul 17, 2021 10:23:09 GMT -5
Kevin, I am so sorry that this has happened to her. We will be praying for you and your wife.
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Post by trailboss on Jul 17, 2021 10:28:27 GMT -5
Kevin, I cannot imagine the level of sadness that you are under and the helplessness of the situation. I will pray for God’s comfort to you and your wife.
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Post by oldcajun123 on Jul 17, 2021 10:36:13 GMT -5
 !  Kevin the reason I didn’t say anything, what do you say. I can’t imagine life without my wife, so damn sad for your family.
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Post by mgtarheel on Jul 17, 2021 10:39:35 GMT -5
Prayers for your wife and you.
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Post by Hand of Glory on Jul 17, 2021 10:54:43 GMT -5
Not sure if or when I may have mentioned this, but my wife was diagnosed a couple of years ago with stage 3 melanoma. Let me tell you something, if you have a weird spot on your body, get it checked out. Melanoma is something you don't want to mess with. It has a very high metastatic rate. After surgery to remove it, the first round was immunotherapy. When they checked her again earlier this year, it had metastasized to her lung, at that point it becomes stage 4. Another round of immunotherapy, had a bad reaction and had to stop. Tried some different pills recently, more reactions and stopped. Recent PET scan she just found out today is horrible. 100+ spots on her lungs, spots on her heart, liver, spline, leg muscles. It's everywhere. The doctor mentioned chemo to her, but I don't think she wants to do that, there is no cure and she doesn't want to spend what time she has left feeling sick. He also mentioned hospice, which I think is going to be the next course of action. It's hard to think about, I'm 55 years old and I don't want to be a widower and there is nothing I can do about it. Keep us in your prayers. Kevin My heart goes out to you and your family during this trying time. Stay strong brother. |
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Post by Scott W on Jul 17, 2021 11:45:06 GMT -5
Prayer for you and the family brother
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Post by Darin on Jul 17, 2021 11:52:31 GMT -5
Sorry to hear this ... all the best to you and your family.
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Post by Jamie on Jul 17, 2021 14:18:19 GMT -5
As someone who has a spouse diagnosed with a chronic disease I can directly and intimately relate to your situation. If at any time you feel you may need to chat with me about how the stress, anxiety, loss of sleep, fear of loss etc. affects you, your wife, your family and friends you don't fret a second and contact me via PM and if you are getting a good vibe Ill be more than happy to share my number. My condolences in this time.
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Post by urbino on Jul 17, 2021 15:57:23 GMT -5
Damn. Sorry to hear that, Kevin. I'd been wondering how she was doing, but didn't want to keep bringing it up when you were here and able to think about happier things. She sounds like a strong woman who knows her own mind. I know it may or may not be what her family wants, but I admire her line of thinking. That takes real grit. I hope she's able to remain herself through it all, and you're able to hang in there with her and relish her stubbornness.  Beyond that, know that life goes on. You and I are almost exactly the same age. I've never had a spouse. I'll never know what it means to face being a widower, but I do know life can be a fascinating, fulfilling ride even without a spouse. |
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Post by instymp on Jul 17, 2021 17:29:33 GMT -5
Prayers done, feel for you both.
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Post by Goldbrick on Jul 17, 2021 19:35:26 GMT -5
Prayers sent Kevin,
Thanks for reaching out to us with this. I can think of nothing worse than dealing with this without an outlet. we're all here, and many will know something of the helplessness you feel; draw from that when you need to, and stay strong.
Bless you, Herb.
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Post by Yohanan on Jul 17, 2021 20:29:15 GMT -5
Prayers for Your Wife, and for You, May God Bless You Both!!!
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Post by Professor S. on Jul 17, 2021 21:45:28 GMT -5
Kevin, my heart is absolutely breaking for you. I have no words for how sorry I am and how much I hate that this is happening to you and your bride. I pray for a miraculous healing, and barring that, supernatural amounts of grace for the two of you to endure this trial together.
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Post by Silver on Jul 17, 2021 23:03:11 GMT -5
Prayers for you both, Kevin. So sorry to hear this.
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Post by qmechanics on Jul 17, 2021 23:13:06 GMT -5
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family..
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Post by CrustyCat on Jul 18, 2021 1:39:47 GMT -5
Thank you everyone I really appreciate your kind words.
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Post by kxg on Jul 18, 2021 10:16:14 GMT -5
Just read this Kevin. My heart goes out to you, I can't imagine the sadness you are experiencing. My prayers for your wife and you.
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Post by Gandalf on Jul 18, 2021 11:22:45 GMT -5
Sorry to hear this. Thoughts and prays for you and your wife.
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Post by sloopjohnb on Jul 19, 2021 9:38:01 GMT -5
Not sure if or when I may have mentioned this, but my wife was diagnosed a couple of years ago with stage 3 melanoma. Let me tell you something, if you have a weird spot on your body, get it checked out. Melanoma is something you don't want to mess with. It has a very high metastatic rate. After surgery to remove it, the first round was immunotherapy. When they checked her again earlier this year, it had metastasized to her lung, at that point it becomes stage 4. Another round of immunotherapy, had a bad reaction and had to stop. Tried some different pills recently, more reactions and stopped. Recent PET scan she just found out today is horrible. 100+ spots on her lungs, spots on her heart, liver, spline, leg muscles. It's everywhere. The doctor mentioned chemo to her, but I don't think she wants to do that, there is no cure and she doesn't want to spend what time she has left feeling sick. He also mentioned hospice, which I think is going to be the next course of action. It's hard to think about, I'm 55 years old and I don't want to be a widower and there is nothing I can do about it. Keep us in your prayers. Kevin That's really tough my friend I'd suggest you ask her deep down what she wants out of the rest of her life and help her make it happen for treatment perspective - at this point I'd personally agree chemo is wrong way to go Enjoy your time together - no one lasts forever and no one knows the future Pain management is important - she may be a tough lady - make sure she isn't suffering
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Post by papipeguy on Jul 19, 2021 15:56:59 GMT -5
Kevin, I'm so sad to read abut your wife's situation. I went through a similar situation with my wife 3 years ago. She eventually passed due to stage 4 COPD. All I can say is cherish each day and stay strong for each other. If you ever want to talk then please PM me. You have a lot of support here.
John
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Post by trailboss on Jul 19, 2021 18:37:51 GMT -5
Kevin, I'm so sad to read abut your wife's situation. I went through a similar situation with my wife 3 years ago. She eventually passed due to stage 4 COPD. All I can say is cherish each day and stay strong for each other. If you ever want to talk then please PM me. You have a lot of support here. John Our mutual friend Dan came to mind also, you guys both lost your lovely brides too soon. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 19, 2021 20:44:23 GMT -5
Very sorry to hear this, Kevin. Prayers for your wife and you.
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Post by CrustyCat on Jul 19, 2021 21:24:54 GMT -5
Thanks again everyone.
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Kevin the reason I didn’t say anything, what do you say. I can’t imagine life without my wife, so damn sad for your family.
