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Post by puffy on Feb 21, 2022 16:21:00 GMT -5
I went to see my doctor today for my usual check up.It turned to a talk session..She wanted me to explain what I've been thinking since my wife died.I told her that with all the stress of the paper work and phone calls.I haven't had a chance to properly morn the loss of my wife.With tears in my eyes I told her that I devoted my life to my wife for 60 years.,Ever since we were teens..Still I wonder if she knew how much I really loved her..Then I told her that the hardest thing I've ever done is sit at a desk and sign papers for them to cremate the only woman I've ever loved..I hope this never happens to you..Believe me when I tell you that it will make a grown man cry.
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Post by mrtalkradio on Feb 21, 2022 16:46:23 GMT -5
Yes, she knew. My condolences.
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Post by urbino on Feb 21, 2022 17:17:19 GMT -5
I agree: she knew.
I hope you're able to mourn her loss, now. I know the realities of all the practical ways it's changed your life have been hard enough. Hopefully you're settled back in enough now to work through the emotional ones.
I know this is way easier for me to say than it is for you to feel, but now and then, when you can, try to think of it as how fortunate you are to have gotten to spend so many happy years with the only woman you ever loved.
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Post by trailboss on Feb 21, 2022 17:23:05 GMT -5
I agree: she knew. I hope you're able to mourn her loss, now. I know the realities of all the practical ways it's changed your life have been hard enough. Hopefully you're settled back in enough now to work through the emotional ones. I know this is way easier for me to say than it is for you to feel, but now and then, when you can, try to think of it as how fortunate you are to have gotten to spend so many happy years with the only woman you ever loved.Truer words never spoken. Some people go through their whole life without ever finding a mate, some go their life having many mates, far fewer still find one compatible enough to travel that long with on their journey. You are incredibly fortunate, even the bad times you weathered together give meaning to life. |
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Post by toshtego on Feb 21, 2022 17:29:28 GMT -5
My condolences and sorrow for your loss. She knew all about you and the two of you together!
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Post by Plainsman on Feb 21, 2022 17:34:36 GMT -5
I wish warm sunshine in your life.
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Post by instymp on Feb 21, 2022 17:53:41 GMT -5
Bless you.
I don't even want to try & imagine what you are going through.
Time
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Post by Ronv69 on Feb 21, 2022 19:17:46 GMT -5
It breaks my heart that you are going through this. I don't think that your pain is worse than if you lost your memories of her. No one ever is truly gone as long as they are remembered.
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Post by Legend Lover on Feb 22, 2022 19:34:32 GMT -5
Brother, I'm so sorry that you're going through this pain. Like Ron wrote, it breaks my heart.
I'm sure your wife knows just how much you love her. Love goes way beyond words.
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Post by pepesdad1 on Feb 22, 2022 19:36:27 GMT -5
Brother, I'm so sorry that you're going through this pain. Like Ron wrote, it breaks my heart. I'm sure your wife knows just how much you love her. Love goes way beyond words. May the Lord's peace be upon you. |
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Post by don on Feb 23, 2022 6:42:45 GMT -5
Keeping you in my prayers, Larry.
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Post by Goldbrick on Feb 23, 2022 17:05:24 GMT -5
Larry, as I made my way through this thread, my wife came from her sewing room holding a jade plant, that was in need of water. I can't tell you how many jade plants she's had over the years, only that each time one dies, she starts another from a cutting of the original.
You see, forty-six years ago, while we were still dating, she gave me a lovely ceramic planter she had made, and a few days later I returned it to her, and in it was a giant jade plant, to this day we won't be without one.
I'm sure there are more examples of how we show love without words, but you get the idea.
Looking back over sixty years, I hope you find many such examples of love...action speaks louder than words.
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Post by Legend Lover on Feb 24, 2022 5:36:15 GMT -5
Larry, as I made my way through this thread, my wife came from her sewing room holding a jade plant, that was in need of water. I can't tell you how many jade plants she's had over the years, only that each time one dies, she starts another from a cutting of the original. You see, forty-six years ago, while we were still dating, she gave me a lovely ceramic planter she had made, and a few days later I returned it to her, and in it was a giant jade plant, to this day we won't be without one. I'm sure there are more examples of how we show love without words, but you get the idea. Looking back over sixty years, I hope you find many such examples of love...action speaks louder than words. Amen brother. |
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Post by rastewart on Feb 24, 2022 17:30:50 GMT -5
Larry, you've been in my thoughts in the days since I first read this thread. I'm glad you opened up with your doctor. A good doctor, and she sounds like one, knows how important our emotions and memories are. I only know you from here and of course never knew your wife at all, but I don't think you should let regrets or doubts get hold of you. Sixty years together, and you took care of her when she needed you. Brother, she knew. That is the kind of love that goes far deeper than words.
There's a line from a TV program I've never seen (WandaVision) that just keeps staying with me: "But what is grief, if not love persevering?" It's a hard thing that we have to pay for our love with so much sorrow, but that is the way of this life. I wish you peace and as much comfort as you can find. We are thinking of you here.
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Post by Stearmandriver on Feb 28, 2022 2:59:14 GMT -5
I choke up every time I read one of your posts. I know we don't know each other at all, but I still do. It's so heartbreaking to read about this, but also very touching to hear you remember her.
I just wanted to say this, for what it's worth: it seems to me that, if the depth of your love for her is so obvious to me (a random guy on an internet forum), it seems impossible that it wasn't completely obvious to her, after living with you for so long. I think she knew, sir. I feel sure of it.
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Post by Zach on Feb 28, 2022 11:00:04 GMT -5
Larry, I've kept you in my thoughts for the past week since reading this and I hope you're doing well getting through this. I can only imagine the pain and trouble you're going through but hoping you're able to reflect on all the special moments together and enjoy your memories. I hope that you're able to get out for something like walks, or pipe group meetings, cafes, lunches with friends, things to clear your head and get some fresh air and conversation.
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Post by CrustyCat on Feb 28, 2022 23:24:31 GMT -5
I feel your pain
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Post by msokeefe on Mar 7, 2022 15:38:57 GMT -5
Any man who was with the love of his life for 60 years and doesn’t cry at her loss isn’t a man, or just not strong enough to deal with his feelings. Sorry for your loss.
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