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Post by adui on Nov 30, 2022 21:46:05 GMT -5
Good evening my friends at the Patch. I normally avoid holiday threads because I'm normally the grinchy humbug type this time of year. Too many hard years that meant I couldn't spoil my wife and my brats as much as I wanted when the kids were small I suppose. (Still cant, but they are adults now so I only worry about not spoiling the wife type)
I try not to get too personal, air my life out online so to speak, but I've always pretty much been an open book, so I often fail.
This has been quite the year. Mom has been terminally ill for a couple years now, and this will likely be her last Christmas before she goes to the other side. In May we unexpectedly lost Dad to a brain hemorrhage.
Mom is spending her money to get all of us kids together, my younger sibling and I are being flown in with our spouses. our oldest brother lives in Salem where mom has settled for the rest of her time here. We will get to have an old fashioned family Christmas. Mom wanted it to be through the new year, but sadly for me work commitments prevent that.
This year will be both a better Christmas than my past several, and a worse because I know it's the last one we will have Mom, and we already don't have Dad.
Wish we'd not been the nomads my family have been and stayed together more...
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Post by Ronv69 on Nov 30, 2022 22:57:03 GMT -5
Christmas is a time for family and reflection. Enjoy it and let the regrets wait till next year. Be grateful for the time you had with her.
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Post by adui on Nov 30, 2022 23:48:24 GMT -5
Christmas is a time for family and reflection. Enjoy it and let the regrets wait till next year. Be grateful for the time you had with her. Thanks, Ron, I should realize this but I seldom do this time of year. |
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Post by toshtego on Dec 1, 2022 0:53:07 GMT -5
No holiday spirit here. Since I am not attending any of the Christmas parties here and will likely spend the evening and day alone, there is not much point in getting excited about it. Humbug is right.
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Post by Legend Lover on Dec 1, 2022 6:06:21 GMT -5
I hope this Christmas allows you to make good memories of your time with your mother that you can reflect on.
I've many reasons to marvel at Christmas, but the forum rules do not permit me to elaborate. Suffice it to say that Christmas gives me hope that it's not always going to be like this.
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Post by Darin on Dec 1, 2022 6:21:48 GMT -5
It will be December 25th for me ... period. Having shrugged off the myths, fairy tales and commercialisation long ago, it's just another day to enjoy a good smoke if I'm not working.
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Post by Legend Lover on Dec 1, 2022 6:40:58 GMT -5
It will be December 25th for me ... period. Having shrugged off the myths, fairy tales and commercialisation long ago, it's just another day to enjoy a good smoke if I'm not working. You've given me an idea...I wonder will my wife let me have a Christmas pipe inside this year. |
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Post by Darin on Dec 1, 2022 8:36:00 GMT -5
It will be December 25th for me ... period. Having shrugged off the myths, fairy tales and commercialisation long ago, it's just another day to enjoy a good smoke if I'm not working. You've given me an idea...I wonder will my wife let me have a Christmas pipe inside this year. Sure hope so! 🙂 |
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Post by Gypo on Dec 1, 2022 16:16:33 GMT -5
The holidays are what we make of them just as the rest of life is. I too have had some really F Holliday's. First I have worked every holiday that there is to be had with no thanks and no holiday pay and stayed out of town in hotels by myself. Lost a daughter it will be 15 years this December 21st and a son the day before Halloween would be 13 now my mother in law's boyfriend committed suicide the Friday before Thanksgiving this year. That is just a small part of the picture. I choose to be thankful for what I do have not what I don't. I have made several friends on this forum that have all been positive and supportive especially during this past year. I struggle to maintain a positive attitude and changed jobs after too much bad stuff at the last one.
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Post by trailboss on Dec 1, 2022 16:26:06 GMT -5
I lost my mother when I was 17, and miss her deeply, she died a few months after I graduated high school and never saw any of her grandkids...she would have been a phenomenal grandmother.
Enjoy the time you have with her and safe journeys.
II Sam. 12:23~ "I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.”
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Post by sperrytops on Dec 1, 2022 16:56:18 GMT -5
Better to celebrate what we have, rather than lament what we have lost. It makes for a more thankful season.
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Post by Plainsman on Dec 1, 2022 19:27:05 GMT -5
My first couple of years as a “solitary celebrant” were difficult. But that has mellowed out into smooth sailing now. I treat all holidays as times for reflection, as best I can. There’s no loneliness in it anymore as I see both loneliness and boredom to be self-created. Too many great memories to get sucked into that.
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Post by CrustyCat on Dec 4, 2022 4:09:01 GMT -5
Enjoy the time with the family. Lost my mother almost 10 years ago. Doesn't seem that long ago though.
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Post by terrapinflyer on Dec 4, 2022 10:33:35 GMT -5
It will be December 25th for me ... period. Having shrugged off the myths, fairy tales and commercialisation long ago, it's just another day to enjoy a good smoke if I'm not working. You're not ascairt of Krampus?! |
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Post by Darin on Dec 4, 2022 17:16:51 GMT -5
😅😅😅
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