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Post by peteguy on Aug 7, 2017 17:15:07 GMT -5
I heard from a mutual friend that a college buddy of ours passed away. I was looking through the obits and saw a picture of a gentlemen with a pipe in his mouth that had also recently passed. My first thought: I wonder if I should contact the family or go to the funeral and ask them if they will sell me his pipe stuff.  |
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Post by oldcajun123 on Aug 7, 2017 17:19:28 GMT -5
How about a Card expressing condolences and a small note casually asking about his pipe stuff. Nothing too strong, all in good taste.
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Post by Baboo on Aug 7, 2017 17:31:54 GMT -5
Send condolences now, revisit sometime later with a sensitive tactful inquiry.
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Post by trailboss on Aug 7, 2017 17:33:50 GMT -5
How about a Card expressing condolences and a small note casually asking about his pipe stuff. Nothing too strong, all in good taste. +1 Express how the commonality of being a pipe smoking buddy is something that is very special, and smoking a pipe of his would be a great way to remember your friend... and ask if you could purchase a pipe to remember him by...chances are, I would reckon that would put you at the front of the front as they look at disposing and distributing the worldy posessions. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2017 17:38:39 GMT -5
Look both ways when backing out of the driveway. Observe the speed limit. Why are you still here?
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Post by trailboss on Aug 7, 2017 18:15:47 GMT -5
Edit: I confused the buddy with the other fellow on the obit column...But, I guess he could be a pretend friend!😜
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Post by fadingdaylight on Aug 7, 2017 18:46:51 GMT -5
As long as you don't hit on anyone at the funeral, asking about his pipes should be fine.
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Post by jitterbugdude on Aug 7, 2017 19:03:18 GMT -5
The first thing you need to do is tell her that you have PAD and that you've succumbed to cruising funeral homes for a quick score... I'm sure she'll understand..  Actually, in all seriousness.. You could go to the viewing and strike up a casual conversation with her and explain the bond you feel with a fellow pipe smoker, a diminishing breed. Then ask about his pipes and offer to take (or pay) them, assuring her that his memory will live on through his pipes. |
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Post by peteguy on Aug 7, 2017 19:26:24 GMT -5
I think I will send a card just to redeem myself (good call Brad). I would probably never act on my thoughts but it just struck me as somewhat strange that my first thought was of pipes.  And yes, I don't think I made myself clear, it wasn't my old friends photo it was just a strangers photo that showed him with a pipe. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 7, 2017 20:29:23 GMT -5
Just my opinion but, I wouldn't even approach them on it. It's not at all the proper thing to do.....unless one is a Vulture of course.
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Post by peterd-Buffalo Spirit on Aug 7, 2017 20:40:27 GMT -5
...personally, I do not see it as proper...just my thoughts...
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Post by PhantomWolf on Aug 7, 2017 21:57:02 GMT -5
I think a straight forward approach would be best after a tasteful amount of time has passed. Most family members are realistic about death when it is a person who died under natural circumstances at a ripe age. And I am sure an offer on some old pipes would help a little with funeral costs.
We did just talk about this a few days ago. How everyone carries a smart phone so it is hard to get a deal on things. Not to mention people tend to label things as antiques and instantly assume they are as valuable as Spanish doubloons... For example: My friend and his father know I'm into pipe smoking and tried bragging-up some valuable 'antique' pipes they had of their father's/grandfather's estate. One was supposedly Ivory- I knew it was Meerschaum before seeing it. haha And the 'antiques' were a couple of Grabows. I dint give them $ value on them because I wanted them to continue cherishing them as heirlooms. Sad how that would ruin the attachment for some people. I wish I had a pipe of my grandfather's.
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Post by Matthew on Aug 7, 2017 22:39:14 GMT -5
I would send a card as an appreciation of a BOTL,
if they contact you about his pipes then make an offer.
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Post by antb on Aug 8, 2017 1:45:44 GMT -5
If you do anything at all, follow Baboo's advice. Enquire much later.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 8:00:16 GMT -5
Truth be told I don't think I could ask.
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Post by Lady Margaret on Aug 8, 2017 10:09:26 GMT -5
they will most likely have a yard sale at some point, keep watching the newspaper for it to be listed But, if pipes were part of his identity (and I suspect they were since they used that photo) his pipes will probably be divided up amongst kids and grandkids as momentos, and hopefully foster a new generation of pipe smokers. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 11:32:18 GMT -5
Send condolences now, revisit sometime later with a sensitive tactful inquiry. +1 |
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Post by peteguy on Aug 8, 2017 11:56:07 GMT -5
Just my opinion but, I wouldn't even approach them on it. It's not at all the proper thing to do.....unless one is a Vulture of course. Agreed. Mods please change my name to PipeVulture. Thanks.  |
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Post by Darin on Aug 8, 2017 12:03:05 GMT -5
LOL ... you need a new avatar too:
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Post by Lady Margaret on Aug 8, 2017 12:30:48 GMT -5
LOL ... you need a new avatar too:
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Post by peteguy on Aug 8, 2017 13:44:11 GMT -5
HAHAHA that is awesome!
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Post by oldcajun123 on Aug 8, 2017 14:20:10 GMT -5
Pete you're a good Sport. I have an Arley Curtz pipe and like it also.
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Post by puffy on Aug 8, 2017 14:44:00 GMT -5
My grandfather only had one pipe.When he died I really wanted that pipe.I asked all of my relatives if they had it as none of them were pipe smokers.They all said no.I still don't know what happened to it.I definitely think one of them got it and was less than honest with me.
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Post by Lady Margaret on Aug 8, 2017 16:50:17 GMT -5
LOVE the new avatar!  |
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Post by serenity on Aug 9, 2017 23:51:30 GMT -5
Just my opinion but, I wouldn't even approach them on it. It's not at all the proper thing to do.....unless one is a Vulture of course. I concur and cannot imagine a tactful means of inquiring. If it's ill-advised to chase ambulances where would you rate Hursts? IMHO of course |
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Post by qmechanics on Aug 11, 2019 3:09:38 GMT -5
Yeah with any luck it will be (or should I say, was 😀) a collection of common Dr. Grabow pipes.😁
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Post by roadsdiverged on Aug 11, 2019 5:21:42 GMT -5
I see you're back to your antics again my friend.
I got half way though this post and realized it was from 2017.
Back to checking dates, hahahaha
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Post by qmechanics on Aug 11, 2019 5:26:44 GMT -5
I see you're back to your antics again my friend. I got half way though this post and realized it was from 2017. Back to checking dates, hahahaha Well this link was brought up during a current thread on avatars. I could not help but respond after reading both threads.😀 |
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Post by Goldbrick on Aug 16, 2019 19:09:52 GMT -5
Send condolences now, revisit sometime later with a sensitive tactful inquiry. +1 I have mixed feelings, but if you must ,this seems the best idea...let her know that as a piper we are "brothers of the briar" and as such we feel a common loss whenever a piper passes...only if that is your real feeling.
I've often thought we need a pipe and tobacco "clearing-house" for times like these...that way those left behind could ship such items off to be sold off at a fair price , and not sell off a lifetime of collecting for pennies at some damn yardsale.
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Post by trailboss on Aug 16, 2019 23:22:15 GMT -5
I have mixed feelings, but if you must ,this seems the best idea...let her know that as a piper we are "brothers of the briar" and as such we feel a common loss whenever a piper passes...only if that is your real feeling.
I've often thought we need a pipe and tobacco "clearing-house" for times like these...that way those left behind could ship such items off to be sold off at a fair price , and not sell off a lifetime of collecting for pennies at some damn yardsale.
Worse yet... Thinking that there is no value and donating them to a thrift store that concludes the same and tosses them in a dumpster. Pretty sure that happens with regularity. Most people would not think twice about re-using silverware in a diner after it had been sanitized, but sticking a used pipe in one's mouth....UNTHINKABLE! |
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And yes, I don't think I made myself clear, it wasn't my old friends photo it was just a strangers photo that showed him with a pipe.
