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Post by puffy on Dec 1, 2018 23:23:05 GMT -5
My son and I were talking recently...I told him that one of these days my life will will be over and when I'm gone I want him to do two things..Make sure that his mother is OK and remember that I love him.He said,,You don't have to tell me that pop. I've always known it. I can't put into words what a wonderful feeling that gives me.I guess I'm just a sentimental old man.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2018 6:43:16 GMT -5
The one and only time my Dad ever told me he loved me was roughly 10 minutes before he passed away back in ‘82. From that day on my Mom made sure her children heard “ I love you “ often.
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Post by addamsruspipe on Dec 2, 2018 10:46:51 GMT -5
Growing up in my family, there were no hugs or I love you's. Now that my mom is in her 80's she has started to say I love you on a pretty regular basis. My wife and I make sure our kids hear it everyday and the hugs are numerous. Even if we have to chase them through the house to give them.  |
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Post by pepesdad1 on Dec 2, 2018 10:49:41 GMT -5
The one and only time my Dad ever told me he loved me was roughly 10 minutes before he passed away back in ‘82. From that day on my Mom made sure her children heard “ I love you “ often. I didn't know we were related, brother. With the exception of mother...she never said anything either...lovely family. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 2, 2018 10:53:45 GMT -5
The one and only time my Dad ever told me he loved me was roughly 10 minutes before he passed away back in ‘82. From that day on my Mom made sure her children heard “ I love you “ often. I didn't know we were related, brother. With the exception of mother...she never said anything either...lovely family. Always tell my son, daughter and all my grandchildren I love them when ever I see them or talk on the phone. Even in our texts. Different generation plus I refused to grow up like my Dad.....an angry person. |
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Post by Legend Lover on Dec 2, 2018 11:08:48 GMT -5
My mum told me often, my dad not so much, but I knew he did. I didn't need him to tell me. I try to tell my kids as often as possible without it becoming meaningless. As for the op... What a feeling that must be for you. I hope it's a while before you leave this sphere, @  . |
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Post by Ronv69 on Dec 2, 2018 11:49:26 GMT -5
I don't remember my dad ever saying that he loved me. He did pick me up and hug me every day when he got home from work, and kissed me every night before bed. He died when I was nine.
I have told my 30 year old son that I love him every day of his life.
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Post by pepesdad1 on Dec 2, 2018 12:10:12 GMT -5
I didn't know we were related, brother. With the exception of mother...she never said anything either...lovely family. Always tell my son, daughter and all my grandchildren I love them when ever I see them or talk on the phone. Even in our texts. Different generation plus I refused to grow up like my Dad.....an angry person.Like I said...related. Yeah, it was a different generation...but if the basic humanity isn't there...generations don't matter. Mine just didn't show any emotion...to each other, to us (brother), to anyone. I'm sure there were reasons galore, but it still sucks no matter what generation is doing it to their kids. |
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Post by pepesdad1 on Dec 2, 2018 12:12:34 GMT -5
My mum told me often, my dad not so much, but I knew he did. I didn't need him to tell me. I try to tell my kids as often as possible without it becoming meaningless. As for the op... What a feeling that must be for you. I hope it's a while before you leave this sphere, @ . I think if you get the feeling that they care (parents) you at least have a feeling that it is there (feeling). If you never have the feeling that they care, you wind up being amoral (as far as love is concerned). |
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Post by Pistol Pete 1911 on Dec 2, 2018 12:55:55 GMT -5
My son and I were talking recently...I told him that one of these days my life will will be over and when I'm gone I want him to do two things..Make sure that his mother is OK and remember that I love him.He said,,You don't have to tell me that pop. I've always known it. I can't put into words what a wonderful feeling that gives me.I guess I'm just a sentimental old man. I share the same feelings about my Daughter. I'm very happy that you and your sun have such a great relationship |
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Post by McWiggins on Dec 2, 2018 13:27:38 GMT -5
A great post this is.
Growing up my father dint say "I love you" as much as he showed it. Now in my late 30's he verbalizes it as much as he shows it.
My mother was always like that and now my father is too and if I ever become a father, I hope I'm as good as he.
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Post by haebar on Dec 2, 2018 15:21:08 GMT -5
My mother always said that she loved me and she hugged me a lot when I was little. I can't remember my dad saying that, but he showed his love in various ways; it was understood. He grew up under harsh conditions on a ranch in Wyoming with three brothers and there wasn't much love passing around. I figured he was afraid to say he loved me because it might show a weakness or something like that.
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Post by Butch Cassidy on Dec 2, 2018 16:02:22 GMT -5
The only time we hugged in my family was to preform the Heimlich maneuver................
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Post by oldcajun123 on Dec 2, 2018 17:30:29 GMT -5
 I don’t want to offend anyone, but I believe saying I love you is ok, but people are slick nowadays, show me that you love me, go to work in the rain, put in a 12 hr shift and put food on the table, give me warm clothes and a warm house and if I don’t realize I’m loved, then I’m very stupid. My folks were raised on a farm, worked during the depression, not too good with hugs and kisses, but they always had food on the table and clothes I wasn’t ashamed of wearing. Too much emphasis now on surface 💩, Hugs are good from your children, but provide for them, show them how to work, be respectful of others and that is the best I Love You Book.
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Post by qmechanics on Dec 2, 2018 17:46:40 GMT -5
The only time we hugged in my family was to preform the Heimlich maneuver................ lol |
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Post by trailboss on Dec 2, 2018 19:45:12 GMT -5
My mum told me often, my dad not so much, but I knew he did. I didn't need him to tell me. I try to tell my kids as often as possible without it becoming meaningless. As for the op... What a feeling that must be for you. I hope it's a while before you leave this sphere, @ . Yeah, my in laws said “I love you” a lot to the point of meaningless when like actions did not follow. Growing up, it wasn’t said a lot in our home. As I raised my kids, I expressed it verbally and with action in an imperfect manner myself, the wife and I have a great relationship with the kids. I kid them that true love will be expressed when they ungrudgingly change my diapers as I did theirs. |
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I don’t want to offend anyone, but I believe saying I love you is ok, but people are slick nowadays, show me that you love me, go to work in the rain, put in a 12 hr shift and put food on the table, give me warm clothes and a warm house and if I don’t realize I’m loved, then I’m very stupid. My folks were raised on a farm, worked during the depression, not too good with hugs and kisses, but they always had food on the table and clothes I wasn’t ashamed of wearing. Too much emphasis now on surface 💩, Hugs are good from your children, but provide for them, show them how to work, be respectful of others and that is the best I Love You Book. 
