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Post by sparks on Apr 5, 2021 12:38:33 GMT -5
It would appear that maybe our Briar Patch family is suffering from a bit of cabin fever. I have noticed a slight uptick in the quickness in which people will react to other members, in addition to having a member leave recently because they felt slighted. It seems that I have to do one of these posts at least once a year to remind everyone of a few important points. In no particular order, a few items that I think everyone should be cognizant of
- Unless I missed a memo, everyone here is an adult, and should be perfectly capable of acting like one without constant reminders. Neither myself, or our moderators are here to be babysitters. I know some think that the staff here isn't quick enough to respond to things, but I remind all of you that it's a thankless, no win job, that requires a lot of time and attention. "Between a rock and a hard place" is a good motto for a moderator, so please be aware of that when being critical of the staff.
- If you don't like something someone says, DON'T RESPOND, which is the text equivalent to walking away. There is no requirement to have the last word, and I would encourage people to avoid doing so. It generally doesn't end up being the last word, and the words that follow are usually said in frustration or anger and lead to regret in the end.
- Context is often lost in a text only community. So stop, take a deep breath, and realize that not every comment/response is some personal slight, and maybe someone is joking or poking fun. We are all different, and each of us has a unique sense of humor. If you think something wasn't funny or it rubbed you the wrong way, I refer you to my statement above. Let's avoid verbally attacking each other, or implying any physical harm.
- I absolutely WILL NOT TOLERATE outside drama. I will not deal with people stirring the pot who are not even actively participating, nor will I tolerate members here feeding into that. This is not a high school lunch room.
- There have been situations in the past where members tried to dictate to me who should and shouldn't be a part of this forum, and did so with the threat that they would leave and take others with them. To those people I say "There is the door, don't let it hit you in the arse on the way out". At the end of the day, myself and the moderators will decide who is good or bad for this forum. We won't always be right, but we do our best. I will not be pressured by anyone else because they don't "like" someone. I would rather have a very very small forum of good people, than a massive forum with a bunch of asshats.
Just be good to each other. Treat each other with respect and remember that we are all different, have different views, different life situations, and different struggles in this world. At the end of the day, we all bleed the same color, feel the same pain, and cry the same tears. Let's all try a bit harder to remember that.
Thanks,
Justin & Staff
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Post by kxg on Apr 5, 2021 12:48:54 GMT -5
Thanks Justin, for the reminder and the job you and the Mods do.
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Post by just ol ed on Apr 5, 2021 14:45:37 GMT -5
just a quick "attaboys" to all who've made this best forum/chat IMO ever
"really olde" Ed, Batavia, NY
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Post by bigwoolie on Apr 5, 2021 18:54:37 GMT -5
Justin, you have my complete support and appreciation. The mods on here do a great job and I thank you for it
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Post by trailboss on Apr 5, 2021 19:55:56 GMT -5
Words fitly spoken, Justin.
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Post by CrustyCat on Apr 6, 2021 1:18:25 GMT -5
Well spoken and on point.
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Post by terrapinflyer on Apr 6, 2021 9:38:51 GMT -5
Thanks, sparks et al. for keeping us in line. I know it's not easy.
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Post by sperrytops on Apr 6, 2021 11:10:55 GMT -5
Thanks for putting that out there, Sparks. Well said.
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Post by trailboss on Apr 6, 2021 22:07:07 GMT -5
Talking about the miscreants. better to mellow in age like a fine wine, rather than turn to vinegar.  |
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Post by mrlunting on Apr 15, 2021 15:28:21 GMT -5
It would appear that maybe our Briar Patch family is suffering from a bit of cabin fever. I have noticed a slight uptick in the quickness in which people will react to other members, in addition to having a member leave recently because they felt slighted. It seems that I have to do one of these posts at least once a year to remind everyone of a few important points. In no particular order, a few items that I think everyone should be cognizant of
- Unless I missed a memo, everyone here is an adult, and should be perfectly capable of acting like one without constant reminders. Neither myself, or our moderators are here to be babysitters. I know some think that the staff here isn't quick enough to respond to things, but I remind all of you that it's a thankless, no win job, that requires a lot of time and attention. "Between a rock and a hard place" is a good motto for a moderator, so please be aware of that when being critical of the staff.
- If you don't like something someone says, DON'T RESPOND, which is the text equivalent to walking away. There is no requirement to have the last word, and I would encourage people to avoid doing so. It generally doesn't end up being the last word, and the words that follow are usually said in frustration or anger and lead to regret in the end.
- Context is often lost in a text only community. So stop, take a deep breath, and realize that not every comment/response is some personal slight, and maybe someone is joking or poking fun. We are all different, and each of us has a unique sense of humor. If you think something wasn't funny or it rubbed you the wrong way, I refer you to my statement above. Let's avoid verbally attacking each other, or implying any physical harm.
- I absolutely WILL NOT TOLERATE outside drama. I will not deal with people stirring the pot who are not even actively participating, nor will I tolerate members here feeding into that. This is not a high school lunch room.
- There have been situations in the past where members tried to dictate to me who should and shouldn't be a part of this forum, and did so with the threat that they would leave and take others with them. To those people I say "There is the door, don't let it hit you in the arse on the way out". At the end of the day, myself and the moderators will decide who is good or bad for this forum. We won't always be right, but we do our best. I will not be pressured by anyone else because they don't "like" someone. I would rather have a very very small forum of good people, than a massive forum with a bunch of asshats.
Just be good to each other. Treat each other with respect and remember that we are all different, have different views, different life situations, and different struggles in this world. At the end of the day, we all bleed the same color, feel the same pain, and cry the same tears. Let's all try a bit harder to remember that.
Thanks,
Justin & Staff
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Post by daveinlax on Apr 15, 2021 15:34:47 GMT -5
LoL! It looks like you’re heading out in a blaze of glory!  |
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Post by mrlunting on Apr 15, 2021 15:52:40 GMT -5
LoL! It looks like you’re heading out in a blaze of glory! every single thing said was a direct attack on me. Sorry you are blind. |
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Post by Professor S. on Apr 15, 2021 18:29:17 GMT -5
LoL! It looks like you’re heading out in a blaze of glory! every single thing said was a direct attack on me. Sorry you are blind. Gosh, man, I really hope you are joking and that something is being lost in the text-only milieu we are using. Justin, Paddy, et al., thank you for the phenomenal job you do in keeping this a friendly, civil place. |
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Post by sparks on Apr 16, 2021 16:19:23 GMT -5
LoL! It looks like you’re heading out in a blaze of glory! every single thing said was a direct attack on me. Sorry you are blind.
You have to be joking me...
Chris, you are quite mistaken. It was a blanket memo to the entire forum to think twice about how they conduct themselves.
Considering how rude you have been to me in emails, and openly rude to me in this thread, I think it best if you move on. You have the option of doing so yourself, or I will be happy to take care of it for you.
To be clear, THIS post WAS directed toward you. I didn't want there to be any confusion this time.
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