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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 8:08:24 GMT -5
Found out last night that I’m going to be a great grandfather at age 67 and my daughter will be a grandmother at 44. My granddaughter had a Veterinarian career ahead, recently accepted to a college here in NC. Now her life is on hold. I never knew my daughter was able to speak in foreign tongue!!
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Post by pepesdad1 on May 11, 2019 8:15:03 GMT -5
Congratulations, Ted...happy moments!! May she have a healthy happy baby...see you better stick around a number of years more...you will be called on for many things!
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 8:16:46 GMT -5
Absolutely, you should! Congratulations you old codger!
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Post by roadsdiverged on May 11, 2019 8:26:21 GMT -5
Congratulations old man  |
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Post by Cramptholomew on May 11, 2019 8:34:04 GMT -5
Congrats, Ted!
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 8:46:24 GMT -5
My oldest granddaughter always had a “ good head on her shoulders “, she knew her goals in life over ten years ago. A strong will with a personality to match. I’m saddened with her lifestyle she chose in the past four months. My daughter offered to take her to an OBGYN, of course my granddaughter declined.......now look at the situation. Now her two younger sisters are completely upset. I’m looking forward to meeting this boyfriend again, I was out all night roaming the streets where he’s known to hang out. Also called in a few favors. All I want is to have a sit down with this young man, see what his intentions are, I’ll keep my cool.
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Post by just ol ed on May 11, 2019 8:54:42 GMT -5
adding my congrats Ted & hopes the "conversations" with the fella go as smooth as the top of my long bald head.
Oldie about the fella asked how he became a great-grandpa in his early 50s. "Well......quite simple. Now 3rd generation of this family never learned to keep their pants up at any early age"!
Ed Duncan, Batavia, NY
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 9:18:51 GMT -5
My daughter was born she had a birth control pill in her hand. I stuck around and gave my wife every cent I ever made to make sure my child had the best schools and a stable home. Our daughter was almost three by the time we got married. Her grandfather took a while to warm up. If it is good enough to sleep with it better be good enough to marry. So it all worked out in the end.
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Post by McWiggins on May 11, 2019 9:35:34 GMT -5
Congrats!!!  |
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Post by pepesdad1 on May 11, 2019 9:39:02 GMT -5
New generation, new lifestyle...she will need some coaching, so will he...regardless of the outcome, a baby has no choice in how it is brought...but you do.
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Post by trailboss on May 11, 2019 10:17:37 GMT -5
Congratulations, old buzzard!
The easy path would be for her to have aborted the child, the fact she chose to carry the child shows more of a sense of responsibility in that regard.
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Post by Legend Lover on May 11, 2019 10:19:43 GMT -5
While it has come at perhaps an inconvenient time, under less than ideal circumstances, a new life is being formed right now and will have the best great grandad he or she could possibly ask for.
You should be happy.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 10:22:19 GMT -5
Congratulations, old buzzard! The easy path would be for her to have aborted the child, the fact she chose to carry the child shows more of a sense of responsibility in that regard. Let’s see if her “ man “ steps up to the plate. What makes it worse I recently found out he’s a convicted felon. So far I’m still not skipping for joy! Don’t want my granddaughter to end up in “ the system “. PS
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Post by daveinlax on May 11, 2019 10:31:06 GMT -5
I was out all night roaming the streets where he’s known to hang out. Also called in a few favors. All I want is to have a sit down with this young man, see what his intentions are, I’ll keep my cool. LoL! What could possibly go wrong?!?! |
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Post by trailboss on May 11, 2019 10:35:43 GMT -5
That is certainly less than ideal, hopefully the felony isn’t of a violent nature, and he can rise to the occasion. If he is a dirtbag, and does not want to be a father, the realities of being a single mother may be overwhelming, adoption is always an option.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 10:42:22 GMT -5
I was out all night roaming the streets where he’s known to hang out. Also called in a few favors. All I want is to have a sit down with this young man, see what his intentions are, I’ll keep my cool. LoL! What could possibly go wrong?!?! Buddy, you always come up with a snide remark towards me in ANY of my threads. Best you go for a long walk off a short pier! |
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 10:45:57 GMT -5
That is certainly less than ideal, hopefully the felony isn’t of a violent nature, and he can rise to the occasion. If he is a dirtbag, and does not want to be a father, the realities of being a single mother may be overwhelming, adoption is always an option. What I’ve Learned, I’d much rather help my granddaughter and she remains a single parent. I know my granddaughter will make a terrific Mom, that’s all that matters. |
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Post by puffy on May 11, 2019 11:07:46 GMT -5
Congratulations
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Post by sperrytops on May 11, 2019 13:37:29 GMT -5
My oldest granddaughter always had a “ good head on her shoulders “, she knew her goals in life over ten years ago. A strong will with a personality to match. I’m saddened with her lifestyle she chose in the past four months. My daughter offered to take her to an OBGYN, of course my granddaughter declined.......now look at the situation. Now her two younger sisters are completely upset. I’m looking forward to meeting this boyfriend again, I was out all night roaming the streets where he’s known to hang out. Also called in a few favors. All I want is to have a sit down with this young man, see what his intentions are, I’ll keep my cool. Congratulations, Ted. Just hoping for you that he is good guy. |
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Post by sperrytops on May 11, 2019 13:40:50 GMT -5
Ted, be patient and give the guy a chance. One mistake does not a criminal make. Your daughter sounds to be a very intelligent girl. Give it a chance and then make you're decisions.
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Post by exchef on May 11, 2019 15:11:59 GMT -5
My oldest granddaughter always had a “ good head on her shoulders “, she knew her goals in life over ten years ago. A strong will with a personality to match. I’m saddened with her lifestyle she chose in the past four months. My daughter offered to take her to an OBGYN, of course my granddaughter declined.......now look at the situation. Now her two younger sisters are completely upset. I’m looking forward to meeting this boyfriend again, I was out all night roaming the streets where he’s known to hang out. Also called in a few favors. All I want is to have a sit down with this young man, see what his intentions are, I’ll keep my cool. Ted, In my opinion, for whatever It is worth, make sure that your granddaughter knows that you will be there for her regardless of the “father” of the baby. From what I have read of your postings, you are a good loving family man and will be the proper guiding hand when the time comes. If it’s when this guy steps up and does the right thing by your granddaughter or heads for the hills in fear, YOU will do the right thing. Remember, your granddaughter’s life is not necessarily on hold, but taking a slight detour. I have known a number of women who have been in similar situations 3 of 5 managed to continue getting their college education, 1 wound up with a phd eventually. Took a little longer but their goals didn’t change, just the path they took to get to them. Now, with that said, had I lived closer I would be happy to join you in having a “conversation” of intentions with the “gentleman” in question. ExChef |
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Post by Yohanan on May 11, 2019 15:15:27 GMT -5
Wishing your Family the best, and that things can be worked out.
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Post by Darin on May 11, 2019 15:20:24 GMT -5
Ted, I recently had the reverse conversation and told a young man that he should run while he still can.
The young buck has no idea what he'd be getting himself into. 
Best wishes to you and your daughter and I know you'll be there when needed.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 16:02:00 GMT -5
My oldest granddaughter always had a “ good head on her shoulders “, she knew her goals in life over ten years ago. A strong will with a personality to match. I’m saddened with her lifestyle she chose in the past four months. My daughter offered to take her to an OBGYN, of course my granddaughter declined.......now look at the situation. Now her two younger sisters are completely upset. I’m looking forward to meeting this boyfriend again, I was out all night roaming the streets where he’s known to hang out. Also called in a few favors. All I want is to have a sit down with this young man, see what his intentions are, I’ll keep my cool. Ted, In my opinion, for whatever It is worth, make sure that your granddaughter knows that you will be there for her regardless of the “father” of the baby. From what I have read of your postings, you are a good loving family man and will be the proper guiding hand when the time comes. If it’s when this guy steps up and does the right thing by your granddaughter or heads for the hills in fear, YOU will do the right thing. Remember, your granddaughter’s life is not necessarily on hold, but taking a slight detour. I have known a number of women who have been in similar situations 3 of 5 managed to continue getting their college education, 1 wound up with a phd eventually. Took a little longer but their goals didn’t change, just the path they took to get to them. Now, with that said, had I lived closer I would be happy to join you in having a “conversation” of intentions with the “gentleman” in question. ExChef Greatly appreciate your opinion, my daughter and granddaughter are aware I will be there for both of them 24/7. It’s difficult to watch your daughter going through stress once again. My granddaughter’s education on hold.....most likely forever. This “ gentleman “ in her life is going nowhere, he has no motivation. He has no goals other than getting high. Okay, he’s a grill man part time!! The “ gentleman “ in question is a bit tied up right now👌👍👍👍. |
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 16:10:40 GMT -5
Ted, I recently had the reverse conversation and told a young man that he should run while he still can.
The young buck has no idea what he'd be getting himself into.
Best wishes to you and your daughter and I know you'll be there when needed.
Thanks Darin, I’ll be there at ALL times, for my daughter and granddaughter. My concern is my two youngest granddaughter’s and how they have shut down since their older sister moved out of the house a few months ago. Honestly, they both need “ outside of the family “ professional help. Both of their personalities have done a 360 since losing daily contact with their older sister. Basically in shutdown mode. I’m extremely close with them, but at this point my daughter needs to focus on their wellbeing right now with a therapist. |
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Post by Scott W on May 11, 2019 16:21:59 GMT -5
Congratulations, old buzzard! The easy path would be for her to have aborted the child, the fact she chose to carry the child shows more of a sense of responsibility in that regard. Let’s see if her “ man “ steps up to the plate. What makes it worse I recently found out he’s a convicted felon. So far I’m still not skipping for joy! Don’t want my granddaughter to end up in “ the system “. PS
Paddy, I’m far from happy at this point. I’ll be in NC in July. I’ll give you a hand (or fist) if you need it buddy. The felon thing has me alarmed. Tough to shake that off your record. |
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Post by Legend Lover on May 11, 2019 16:31:14 GMT -5
OK, things have opened up a bit...
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2019 16:49:44 GMT -5
OK, things have opened up a bit... But under control 👍 |
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Post by pepesdad1 on May 11, 2019 16:55:42 GMT -5
They will always be under control...because that is the kind of man that you are...baby and momma will do just fine! Young man in question needs to wise up and deal with his issues in his life...however long it may be...it really is up to him to straighten out his life...but he is the last thing on anyone's mind at this point...momma and baby are first in all things concerning this.
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Post by Scott W on May 11, 2019 17:46:02 GMT -5
They will always be under control...because that is the kind of man that you are...baby and momma will do just fine! Young man in question needs to wise up and deal with his issues in his life...however long it may be...it really is up to him to straighten out his life...but he is the last thing on anyone's mind at this point...momma and baby are first in all things concerning this. Walt is a wise man, well stated sir |
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