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Post by kbareit on Dec 12, 2019 21:08:38 GMT -5
Clarity is, I've came too far to be feeling this miserable. I blame no one but myself for that because I held on when I should have let go. 'Tis life. Congrats on your 2 1/2. I'll give you credit for trying to make things work. It takes a real man to take a beating and keep trying but there is no shame for walking away after realizing it won't change.
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Post by roadsdiverged on Dec 12, 2019 21:08:52 GMT -5
scrooge I've read what you wrote to me quite a few times lately. Same with words from a few others. Those words have helped me a lot through this rough time. There are some really amazing people here.
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Post by roadsdiverged on Dec 12, 2019 21:11:33 GMT -5
Clarity is, I've came too far to be feeling this miserable. I blame no one but myself for that because I held on when I should have let go. 'Tis life. Congrats on your 2 1/2. I'll give you credit for trying to make things work. It takes a real man to take a beating and keep trying but there is no shame for walking away after realizing it won't change. Being the punching bag gets old. I'm burned out on it. Getting berated and belittled by someone that clearly doesnt value me, our marriage, or anything at all for that matter, just doesnt work for me anymore
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2019 21:23:30 GMT -5
Maybe it is about her not loving herself and acting out against you.
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Post by roadsdiverged on Dec 12, 2019 21:41:52 GMT -5
I believe you are correct.
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Post by kbareit on Dec 12, 2019 21:43:25 GMT -5
Congrats on your 2 1/2. I'll give you credit for trying to make things work. It takes a real man to take a beating and keep trying but there is no shame for walking away after realizing it won't change. Being the punching bag gets old. I'm burned out on it. Getting berated and belittled by someone that clearly doesnt value me, our marriage, or anything at all for that matter, just doesnt work for me anymore I know the feeling all to well. I have family that I had to walk away from because of the way they treated me. My own mother got mad at me over something I had nothing to do with and told me I was nothing but a drunk. I was 6 years sober at the time and was the closest I ever came to drinking again. As she told me my entire life, she loved me but didn't like me and I told her the same and that I wouldn't see her again. It broke my heart but I couldn't deal with it anymore.
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Post by roadsdiverged on Dec 12, 2019 21:47:37 GMT -5
My relationship with my mom is one of the most toxic relationships I have, I sort of know where you're coming from there.
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Post by puffy on Dec 12, 2019 22:50:17 GMT -5
My relationship with my mom is one of the most toxic relationships I have, I sort of know where you're coming from there. I know that feeling..My mother has passed on now..My relationship with her was never good..I never had the feeling that she wanted me for a son.I never let it effect my life though.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2019 3:55:31 GMT -5
You all have my utmost sympathy. My family went through hell when I was growing up, but we loved each other through it all, and that means everything to me.
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Post by oldcajun123 on Dec 13, 2019 9:29:17 GMT -5
Josh you take care of yourself, don’t you do anything to worry this old man, you hear.
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Post by pepesdad1 on Dec 13, 2019 10:06:21 GMT -5
Maybe it is about her not loving herself and acting out against you. This^^^^is probably the case!
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Post by roadsdiverged on Dec 13, 2019 10:40:05 GMT -5
Josh you take care of yourself, don’t you do anything to worry this old man, you hear. No sir, not me! Through it all, I am well, stable and sober. I put my stupidity behind me, everything I do now is well thought out and planned accordingly. ... I'm thinking that doesnt sound right either, hahaha
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Post by Goldbrick on Dec 14, 2019 23:56:26 GMT -5
No more than I know about you, I know this much...you work hard and do so willingly...you're a thoughtful person, and as such ,you have many friends here...and God loves you , because he's seen to it that Yorktown is on sale at S.P.COM right here at the holidays!
all kidding aside, it's good to see you've got yourself together ,and are strong enough to form plans for the future.
well done, and so very good to see you posting again!
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Post by roadsdiverged on Dec 16, 2019 7:47:17 GMT -5
No more than I know about you, I know this much...you work hard and do so willingly...you're a thoughtful person, and as such ,you have many friends here...and God loves you , because he's seen to it that Yorktown is on sale at S.P.COM right here at the holidays! all kidding aside, it's good to see you've got yourself together ,and are strong enough to form plans for the future. well done, and so very good to see you posting again! The C&D sale ALMOST got me. If it wasnt for Christmas, having 642 kids, and being the only one working... I'd have several pounds on the way. Thank you for the kind words.
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Post by Legend Lover on Dec 16, 2019 14:29:49 GMT -5
Brother, I wish I could come over there and give you a (manly) hug and take you out to get your head showered. I can only imagine how you're feeling because I haven't been there myself, but you have my respect and my prayers.
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Post by adui on Dec 16, 2019 15:07:35 GMT -5
The C&D sale ALMOST got me. If it wasnt for Christmas, having 642 kids, and being the only one working... I'd have several pounds on the way. Thank you for the kind words. I know that feeling all too well my friend. I don't know you personally, but I can relate to such problems. Hope your's get better soon!
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Post by qmechanics on Dec 24, 2019 7:38:54 GMT -5
642 kids, roadsdiverged are you related to Wilt Chamberlain? You might want to consider Mr Blackitt's advice. MR. BLACKITT: "Have I got one? Uh, well, no, but I can go down the road any time I want and walk into Harry's and hold my head up high and say in a loud, steady voice, 'Harry, I want you to sell me a condom. In fact, today, I think I'll have a French Tickler, for I am a Protestant.'* If you are not a protestant then maybe it is time for you to consider becoming one. Disclaimer: As a warning to our codgy pipe smokers who otherwise might get their panties in a bind, I am Did I just say that (codgy pipe smokers and panties) ? Sorry....... Does the madness ever end..... I guess not ..... PS Come on over roadsdiverged ....... Seriously we should commiserate and swap war stores..... *A quote from Monty Python's Meaning of Life
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Post by roadsdiverged on Dec 24, 2019 8:32:07 GMT -5
It's all good my friend. I enjoy, and share, your humor.
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Post by Cramptholomew on Dec 24, 2019 10:14:06 GMT -5
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Post by roadsdiverged on Dec 24, 2019 11:15:26 GMT -5
^^^ 100%
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Post by pepesdad1 on Dec 24, 2019 12:53:09 GMT -5
Yup...Humor takes the pain away for a while
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Post by Legend Lover on Dec 25, 2019 14:24:52 GMT -5
I'm afraid I'd need to be there to moderate. It's like having police presence at a political rally.
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Post by qmechanics on Dec 25, 2019 18:13:04 GMT -5
I'm afraid I'd need to be there to moderate. It's like having police presence at a political rally. No moderators are allowed at such gatherings... Friends however are welcome. Legend you are always welcome as a friend, not a patch monitor. I have no need of such things, though I always try to abide by the rules in another's house. I am one of the most pleasant people to be around; Smokes are always offered as well as spirits and great conversation, according to the flow of the moment.. PS I know you are joking...
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Post by Legend Lover on Dec 25, 2019 18:52:49 GMT -5
I'm afraid I'd need to be there to moderate. It's like having police presence at a political rally. No moderators are allowed at such gatherings... Friends however are welcome. Legend you are always welcome as a friend, not a patch monitor. I have no need of such things, though I always try to abide by the rules in another's house. I am one of the most pleasant people to be around; Smokes are always offered as well as spirits and great conversation, according to the flow of the moment.. PS I know you are joking... I'm glad you do. Outside of the patch, I don't care what you do. 😁 But I'm glad I'd be invited.
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Post by roadsdiverged on Jan 4, 2020 15:53:15 GMT -5
Here's the latest update.
Time to be happy and quit letting someone make me miserable everyday.
I just packed the rest of my stuff and left.
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Post by adui on Jan 4, 2020 15:55:08 GMT -5
roadsdiverged Glad to hear it! Still sad it came to this but its time to think about you. Now start a new chapter and get happy again!
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Post by Legend Lover on Jan 6, 2020 14:14:12 GMT -5
Here's the latest update. Time to be happy and quit letting someone make me miserable everyday. I just packed the rest of my stuff and left. It must have been tough for you, buddy. I hope you are in a better place now!
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Post by roadsdiverged on Jan 6, 2020 15:21:58 GMT -5
Getting there. It's a very long journey ahead
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Post by oldcajun123 on Jan 6, 2020 16:32:42 GMT -5
You gonna make it Josh, I GARRONTE!
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Post by roadsdiverged on Jan 6, 2020 20:19:03 GMT -5
You gonna make it Josh, I GARRONTE! I'm going to make it to the top, I have no doubts. I have a positive attitude and people who stand BESIDE me, encourage me, and support me. I wont give up until I reach the top.
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